What happens when your son is smart but lazy in school?

My 8 year old is amazingly smart, the problem? He is lazy!

He finds ways to get out of doing school work and sadly the teachers have let him get away with it. He claims he is feeling ill or has a headache. This past Monday we met with his teacher and resource teacher of finding ways to help him.

The one thing is helping him become more independent. This one is not only hard for him but also me since he is my last “baby”. You never realize how hard it is to let go until your youngest starts growing up. Then you hold on to the little things you do for him. I haven’t pushed him like I have pushed my daughter. So now he is being more responsible in the morning and surprisingly it has been quite easy. He does it with no question and now I wonder if all along I wasn’t actually helping him to move faster but holding him back by doing it. I have to say it is a bit of load of my morning schedule for him to get himself ready. I still pick out his clothes but he puts them on and then goes to the bathroom and brushes his teeth. He also receives a sticker daily at school in his planner if he had an independent day and there has yet to be a day without a sticker!!

The second thing we are working on is his printing. While he is smart his ability to write down on to paper is lacking. So each night we do a journal and he is learning to pace himself at work when writing so that everyone can read his work. He has been doing well with that as well. He does try to stall by complaining that we have to do another journal but once he sits down he does complete it.

I am hoping with just those two things it will help him with the rest of his school work. They tried testing him in school but he rushes and then the test isn’t accurate. So really the school has no idea what he CAN do because he doesn’t have the patience to be tested. My husband feels that threatening to take his PS3 away or his computer away if he doesn’t do it is the key. I think that we need to show him he needs to do it to be those wonderful careers he wishes to be. (mayor, army man, police officer)

Hopefully he finally does because then maybe they can see what I see with my son. I know he can do a lot more then they believe and it is frustrating having to hear over and over he can not when he does do it at home.

Do any of you have some problems with your children not doing what they need to at school? And how have you succeed in getting them to do the work or how are you trying to get them to do it?

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